How cruel would it be to walk into a room of blind people and ask them how they enjoyed the sunset today? They cannot see and in many ways its just as unrealistic to expect a toxic person to respond to reason or truth. I must assume responsibility for changing myself but never for changing them. This post by Gary Thomas is excellent, but my only addition would be that God is able to change anyone so never give up:
“If you adopt a wolverine and pour all your love into that animal; if you treat it like a puppy, hugging it and feeding it and playing with it; if you give it the very best care anyone has ever given to a wolverine, the day will still come when that wolverine will attack you, because no matter how kindly you treat a wolverine, it is still a vicious, wild animal, and in the end, its nature will win. It is the same with a toxic person.”