If you are not getting your primary security and significance from the Father, then the person you are married to will move to the top of the list. When that happens, they will disappoint and you will try to fix them to stop the pain. When Christ is in first place, then every husband should be able to do these things Nicholas Batzig is recommending:
“What does it look like to biblically care about the needs of my wife?” That is a question that I feel as though I am just beginning to learn how to answer 11 years into marriage. While there is no silver bullet, there are many things that the Scriptures teach us in order to help guide the process of learning to take care of your wife.”